The concept of sexual charisma
comes from the realization that no girl will sleep with a guy that she
considers to be non-sexual. Put different, a girl has to be able to
imagine you having sex with girls (perhaps herself) in order to have
sex with you. It's obvious that when a girl says "Oh I can't imagine
him having sex!", it's not a compliment to the guy she's referring to.
So at the very least, we have to be sexually appealing, and to be so, we have to have sexual charisma.
Sexual charisma is one of those things that are hard to grasp; most
people would say "some have it, others don't", and it's actually quite
close to the truth. You can change it, but it's very hard. Let us start with the basics; sexual charisma consists of the following:
- Sexual Confidence (necessary)
- Secret Society (a big bonus)
have sexual confidence means to be comfortable talking about sex and
have no issues related to sex. This means you don't change the subject
as soon as a girl mentions sex, because you'll come across as insecure
or intimidated. Instead, you talk about sex in a light, fun way, just
like every other topic of conversation. Sex should be as natural as
showering to you. But of course, you don't want to be try hard
going back to the topic of sex all the time because then you'll come
across as insecure too, trying to compensate outwards for your lack of
inner sexual confidence. An important non-verbal display of sexual
confidence is kino escalation
without any physical touching, your interaction with a girl will feel
very non-sexual. Initiating kino escalation at a late point will make
her feel uncomfortable.
To not have issues related to sex means you are sexually non-judgmental:
you don't judge people - in particular girls - for their sexual history, preference, promiscuity, or anything
else. Everything is acceptable when it comes to sex. Don't react
negatively to anything sexual she reveals about herself, if you do and
she picks up on it, she'll either never sleep with you or hold back on
sex until the two of you have enormous
connection, because anything else would make her feel very uncomfortable.
society is a meme presented by the pick up artist Tyler Durden. The
idea is that most guys are outside of a secret society that consists of
all girls, gay guys, and only a handful of straight guys. This secret
society is all about sex: if you belong to it, you'll be in good hands
because everybody sleeps with everyone inside this society. However,
nobody talks about this society; its members will always strictly deny
its existence and everything that goes on inside. Of course, there is
no such society, but the idea is brilliant, and it might be hard to
appreciate the idea of this "secret society" until you end up being one
of the guys that are standing on the inside, having girls tell you all
the nasty things they've done in the past. It's not something they
would every tell their boyfriends, because they want these guys to see
them as their princesses and treat them accordingly. But most girls
have another side, one in which they are completely free to express
their sexuality, and if their relationship with their boyfriends are
bad, they'll long for that freedom again.
With regards to sexual charisma, the secret society boils down to the following:
- Don't kiss and tell: let girls know you never reveal sexual secrets (you have discretion).
- Create a "us against them" (them are all other guys and some clueless girls) feeling (in the context of sex and relationships).
- Whatever she's done with other guys is irrelevant (you are sexually non-judgmental and understand her need for discretion).
are the basics when it comes to sexual charisma: we can do better than
simply avoiding being non-sexually appealing. We can actually work to
be sexually appealing. Appearance is crucial to sexual appeal: you do
not need to be good looking
(although it surely helps), but you need to look good
- your face, body, and everything you are wearing. And it goes beyond
what you wear: having other girls laughing in your arms makes you look very good
This is the key difference between how men and women perceive physical
attractiveness: we look only for replication value (objective beauty),
while they look for indicators of both survival and replication value.
expressions are very powerful when it comes to sexual charisma. In some
of our facial expressions we are perceived as much more sexy than
others. Most people don't control much of these expressions because
they come unconsciously, and no efforts were ever made to become aware
of the good and the bad ones, in order to re-internalize them. This is
something that should be done. This is best done through recent photos
and videos of you: analyze them to evaluate your looks, both in terms
of beauty, but also sexyness. Do not get caught up in old memories
while looking through the photos; this is the one time you aren't
looking at pictures for that reason. You should use girls to help you
with this evaluation whenever possible (be honest about the purpose and
she'll give you direct answers).